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The seven year itch

November 17, 2009

Do you think “The seven year itch” really exist? They say after being married for seven years you tend to re-evaluate your marriage. Then you start seeing other or better options.

I think I have a bad case of “The seven year itch” But I think a big part of this all is because we are separated at the moment

I googled it and came up with this. Got it from

What is the seven year itch?

In short it is a relationship term – usually after 7 years people tend to re-evaluate their relationship. There might be evidence that it is now much shorter but the original number 7 came from a time period where the average marriage only lasted 7 years.
There is also speculation that this might be a real itch related to skin condition, insects, or STDs.
*All along you saw signs but you ignore them or you were too busy to act on them, and after seven years you finally realized what you missed and try to change it.
*Supposedly, after being married for seven years or just being with someone for that long, you start looking at other options. Hence you have an itch to scratch. In layman’s terms, one is expected to leave/cheat at this time.
*A recent question on Hollywood sq. showed that statistics reveal the average marriage in North America lasts 7 years. maybe that’s where it comes from, mine this year is 32, (where did we go wrong.)
*It use to be the “seven year itch”, but it has drastically lowered to anywhere from six months to four years. People just don’t seem to rate marriage on the high end these days and if there is a problem in the marriage (there will always be that bridge to cross no matter how wonderful a marriage we have) one of the two will often walk away instead of sticking it out through some of the bad times. Sadly, divorce is at a much higher rate. TWO-YEAR ITCH INFECTS MARRIAGE COUPLES watching out for the seven-year itch should be on their guard a lot earlier these days. According to research, they are far more likely to separate after about two years of marriage. One in 12 couples is heading for the divorce courts after 24 months – more than double the figure for seven years. From “TWO-YEAR ITCH INFECTS MARRIAGE” News Australia, By James Mills, June 22, 2004 Cited in a posting in the Smart Marriages listserv June 22, 2004. News Australia, By James Mills, June 22, 2004.
*The seven year itch statistic refers to the number of years together when the most divorces happen. So the first person was right. The seven-year itch refers to the itch to break up. According to the US Census Bureau, this statistic has slowly inched toward 8 years. So now we have an 8-year itch to scratch. According to most researchers, divorce statistics are the most abused. One of the reasons why we have an increase in divorce statistics is not shorter relationships, but longer lives. Another reason is because divorce statistics never measure abandonment. For example, divorces were low during the Great Depression, the 1930s, because it was cheaper and easier to simply leave. So it shows a decrease in divorces because they don’t measure abandonment’s. Ideally, we would study “relationships” and include marriages, and we would study “relationship endings”, not just divorces. For more accurate information: Articles: Or:
*The seven year itch is an odd term for a small mite that lives under the skin, also called scabies. It causes severe itching beginning in the wrists and feet. They call it the seven year itch because it is very difficult to get rid of.
*The “Seven Year Itch” is not a relationship term. It is also not a mite. This term refers to eczema, a skin condition usually being a rash, which is extremely itchy and aggravating. I personally have this chronic rash, and it can last for a short length of time or a very long stretch of time such as seven years. Not everyone has it for seven years, so it’s more of an expression that people don’t understand and apply it to what they think is correct.
*The Seven Year Itch is a Classic Comedy starring Marilyn Monroe and Tom Ewell. The 20th Century Fox film was an adaptation of the Broadway play of the same name by George Axelrod. It was directed by Billy Wilder and presented in Deluxe Color CinemaScope. Often cited as one of the great comedies of its time, it won critical acclaim and became the biggest box office hit in the summer of 1955. It contains one of the most iconic images of the 20th Century in which Marilyn Monroe’s dress is blown up above her waist by a passing train underneath a subway grate she is standing on.
*Males tend (in my observations – and in hindsight) to have three and a half years relationship cycles (that is they re-evaluate the relationship every three to four years generally) whilst females tend to have the so-called ‘Seven year itch’ (with all due respect). This is partly due to the nesting instinct, and partly due to their innate patience. (I would say ‘infinite’ but it seems there is a limit – take note gentlemen, thus, divorces or breakups found at between three to four years and 11-12 years are typically initiated by the male, with the majority of breakups occurring at around seven years where the ‘psychological security’ of the relationship is at it’s ebb. This being said, one also has to factor in the females nesting instinct could have an impact on a females choice regarding divorce or breakup – certainly if children were introduced into the relationship whether it is due to deep-rooted (pardon the pun) sexual motives (such as both sexes desires to procreate/nest vs hunt) or otherwise is a matter of further discussion. If it is due to a conjunction of male-female re-evaluation phases then, obviously, at seven years perhaps it is natural that breakups would occur more readily.
*According to the news on T.V. 51% of Canadian couples live together so married couples are now the minority.
*It was my understanding the term referred to the STD herpes; which although incurable outbreaks tend to decrease in frequency significantly after about seven years. It would be pertinent to find out how long this phrase has been in use, as well, as its cultural origins.

4 Comments leave one →
  1. November 17, 2009 9:46 am

    I believe in the “7 Year itch” because I had it last year.

    I am proud to say that I did not act upon it and now this year, I do not see other or better options anymore and I feel that I can now go on with my marriage as it is now with my husband for the rest of our lifes.

  2. November 17, 2009 6:01 pm

    I left this year after 8 years of being together, was it an itch – no it was finally admitting that no amount of trying was going to change anything and that I could not stand the abuse any more, it took that long to finally wear e=me down to the point I could not carry on. If there was any hope or any love or chance I would have stayed. Marriage is not always happy and fun, in fact most of the time life is just hard. To love someone and work through the bad and come out the other side because you love each other is something to hang onto. Yes there are times to get out, but most of the time I thinking fight with everything you have first.

  3. November 17, 2009 6:06 pm

    Thanks for that reply Sally-Jane. I know marriage is hard work, you cant let it just go and not work on it. Thanks for making me see that I actually have a good marriage, we just have to work on it to have a brilliant marriage again. Love you.

  4. December 3, 2009 11:05 am

    That was an interesting read. I’ve just had the whole relationship re-evaluation – I’m 1 month off 7 years. We’ve decided to make some changes & see how it goes because it seems like such a long time to just give up on.
    I hope everything works out for you =]

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